Why I threw my goals in the trash, and how you can be more clear about yours.

I just wanna play.

I just wanna play.

Goals are great, and important to have, right? I have clear goals for the day, week, month, and I have a clear vision of how I wish my days to look like in some years.

A danger with goals is that you commit to the goals in a way that makes you feel that you have failed if you don’t achieve them. Having goals is equivalent to having a plan, and plans are for throwing out! A plan is a structure to lean upon but in the second it doesn’t work, it’s important to let it go in an instant and move on without looking back.

An example: I had set up a fantastic plan for the coming autumn with clear goals for what I would spend my time on. But then I listened to myself in this interview and realized that my goals for the fall didn’t match my vision.

Behind the scenes, I have prepared the launch of a community for drummers and percussionists. Within this community, I thought to offer exclusive lessons to a small group of people. When I listened to my voice I realized (being an extreme introvert) this is not my thing. I prefer to work one-on-one. I love to “lift” others, to help musicians and singers find their “voice”, their unique path in life and to help them get a little closer to their vision, but the group format just isn’t for me.

The price for throwing one’s goals is to remain empty-handed. What am I doing now? I don’t know, but I’m working on it. If you are pondering on goals for the fall, here are 3 small tips. Tweak them as you like.

  1. Listen to Mark Mc Guinness interview with me on the 21st Century Creatives podcast here. It’s a deep conversation about my journey as a musician, mindful drumming, anorexia, my day design, and more. The interview starts at 11:58 after Mark’s introduction. If you don’t want to listen to me, there are four seasons of interesting interviews on the podcast with amazing creatives!

  2. Get your notebook. Paper and pen do wonders when you want to go deeper, feel overwhelmed or do not know what you want.

  3. Can you relate to anything that I’m talking about in the interview, does it trigger you in any way? Write, even though it may only be two words. If what comes up is something different, not at all related to the interview, write it! Then write one thing you want to do and commit to spending time on during this fall.

    Please share your commitment in the comments section so we can learn and get ideas from each other, and, not the least, hold each other accountable. Good luck!

This post is a little longer than my usual posts. Please tell me if you like it or if you think I should stick to my shorter format.

Thank you and take care,

Maria.

ps. I’m opening up more space for coaching vocalist and other musicians. If this sounds interesting to you please check my new page LEARN MINDFUL PLAYING WITH ME HERE

Sweep.

 A beach is not only a sweep of sand, but shells of sea creatures, the sea glass, the seaweed, the incongruous objects washed up by the ocean.

Henry Grunwald

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There’s always a picture. An inspirational visual that convey what I wish to express in a piece. I don’t tell stories. My music is more sound scapes than songs that intends to share a feeling. An emotion that at one moment grabbed my body. It can be a moment of lightness, a deep feeling of connection to nature, a touch of magic, a moment of darkness.

Under the sweep of music, there’s so much wilderness to explore...

Peace,

Maria

To listen to some examples of my music, go here: https://bovindelabbe.com/asphaltmeditations/

Close your eyes.

A ” Dream Drawing”, my intention, my focus for this week: CLOSE YOUR EYES. I posted this drawing Monday morning while looking out the window. Dark green moss. Trees. I live just by the woods.

Now it’s Friday night here, pitch black outside. Looking back - I closed my eyes for moments during the week. I made my 10-minute Pilates sessions early in the mornings. I practiced, composed, had a moving session with an awesome class at the Norwegian Academy of Music and... cried for a whole day (at least that was what I wanted to do but held back when it wasn’t... appropriate. Know the feeling?). It thrilled me when that day was over but, at least, it brought me valuable insights.  

Now I can open my eyes again and move on. Wiser (hopefully) and with my focus set straight.

Thanks for reading. Don’t hesitate to reach out.

Have a lovely weekend 🌼

Peace,

Maria🧚🏻‍♀️ 

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Close your eyes.  

Stick your head out.

Hi! 

It’s Monday morning and I’m looking out the window. It’s grey outside. A few dark yellow leafs still shivers on their branches. Most of them have fallen to the ground. November. I light some candles, take a zip of my coffee and bring out my drum from its case.

If you’ve been around for a while you’ve seen my Dream Drawings before, a drawing that, for me, capture my intention, wish, or focus for the upcoming week.

It’s been a while now but here’s this weeks Dream Drawing: Stick your head out. Do that thing (you know the one you’ve put off for months, years...) Go, go... You got this. Dare.

 I would love to hear your interpretation on it...

Have a lovely week! 🌼

With love,  Maria.

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Stick your head out. 

Calm.

Calm. Stillhet. Thoughts on Solitude. 

Is the calm in solitude always present? Is it always good? It can, for sure, be unpleasant sometimes and hurt down to the core. Feel like sitting in a cold, pitch-black or ice white, closet.

To me though, solitude is sometimes an escape but most often a big room, a space, of calm. In this room, I dance freely and ideas are born as easy as a blink. To me, solitude is a safe place.

I like being untouchable. It awakes the glimpse in my eye, the glow in my body. 

Peace. 

 

Måste, är, stillheten i ensamheten alltid befintlig? Är den alltid god? Den kan nog vara obehaglig ibland. Göra ont intill skelettet. Som att sitta i ett kallt, kolsvart eller kritvitt skåp. 

För mig är ensamheten ibland en flykt men oftast ett stort rum, en rymd av lugn. Där dansar jag fritt, och idéer föds så lätt som en blinkning. 

Ensamhet är, för mig, något tryggt. För det allra mesta. 

Jag gillar att vara onåbar. Det väcker glimten i ögat, glöden i kroppen. 

Fred. För det är det vi alla behöver nu. 

Maria. 

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First draft of my piece Emptiness... Always a journal close by.

It's time for... SOLITUDE.

Hello!

Nice seeing you! Today I have an announcement to make! Drum rolls, please! On the 23rd of September, I will perform my first solo concert, SOLITUDE, in Oslo, Norway.

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In SOLITUDE, my first solo concert I wish to invite the audience to the "white room" where I am with the drums. The white room is a symbol of solitude and through my drum compositions, I question which colors, emotions arise in that state.

I thrive in solitude. Many social contexts make me uncomfortable. That doesn't mean I'm asocial, I love people. But, when I play I can say all that burn inside. It's simple without words. The stage is the arena where I feel it is ok to be myself and that's everything I've ever wished for. 

That said, creating and performing my first solo is scary! What if I make a fool of myself, get paralyzed by nerves, etc? But I can't let that stop me. This IS the next step in my journey and YOU are, of course, welcome!

Have a lovely weekend and stay posted!

Peace, as always,

Maria.